have you learnt about kuzvarira/kubeletha?
you know anyone in this situation, how can you
problem is typical of a family who use the lobola system wrongly
and care more about money than about their daughter's future.
The lobola system can work well when it is applied correctly,
but not when families are greedy or are desperate for money.
These cases abuse a young woman's right to choose who she
wants to marry.
no matter how much you love this girl, I think you are too
young to think of marriage, and I am pleased that you are
planning to complete your 'O' levels first. I suggest you
wait even longer.
the meantime, your girlfriend is in danger of being forced
into a marriage she does not want. You can support her by
helping her to keep her independence. Try to find a member
of her family - her elder brother or sister, or aunt or grandmother
- and talk to them about what might be best for her. If they
are sympathetic, they can back her up in future discussion
with her parents. If there is still no positive reaction,
your girlfriend could go to a woman's organisation or to the
police for help, because it is everyone's right to decide
who to marry. This would of course mean breaking relations
with her family.
situation is difficult, but I hope someone within your girlfriends'
family will understand and help her.