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23. Will mbanje cure my shyness
Theme:
Growing up
Speaking out
Dear Philani
Your friends are giving you bad advice. Although some people say mbanje makes them relaxed, others find it makes them confused and afraid.
I understand that you feel left out without a girlfriend, but the best thing is to talk to girls just as friends. Friendship may grow into a relationship.
Start by just saying hello, smiling, and saying something about school, the weather – anything. The real trick is to ask other people about themselves and be interested in their lives and problems. Girls will appreciate this more than if you try to show off.
And remember, nobody is watching out for you to do something stupid. They are too worried about making mistakes themselves!
You can’t solve your problems through drugs like mbanje or alcohol. Many people behave badly when drunk or stoned, leading to problems with family, friends and employers. Also, smoking mbanje is illegal and can get you into trouble.
You don’t need drugs to be liked by other people, nor to get the courage to do something. There are much better ways to overcome your shyness. Good luck.
Auntie Stella
